This is been something I’ve been musing about for a while now – probably a couple of years. It seems to me that there’s a rash of quarter-life crises going on among people my age. The age between, say, 28 – 36 ish.
We are the Lost Generation. We are the sons and daughters of the baby boomers which leaves us out of the running for Generation x and definitely out of y. If there is an official name for us – the W gen? – then please let me know. Otherwise, I think there’s something to the idea of being the Lost Generation.
We – the general we – seem to be very disenchanted with life these days. We do not want just “A Career” and in fact, we seem more willing to toss the whole thing in favour of the idea of following our dreams. We seem to be more invested in the idea of Self, the idea that there is more to life than simply go to work, come home, eat, sleep, do it again. It’s as though we’re more willing to leap and see where we land, and to be open and explore what happens when we do land, rather than needing to KNOW. We’re willing to jump higher and further, be open to whatever may happen while we’re up there in the air. We’re also willing to make serious course changes at the drop of a hat. Gimme a good reason, and I’m in. (OK, sometimes the good reason can be “there’s a kick ass beach over there” or “there’s black sand!” or “the market is GORGEOUS” and I’m yours. Getting me to change course is not that difficult.)
What we DO know is that when we land, wherever and whenever we do, we will do so on our feet. We will be taken care of – we will be caught when we leap. We are a group of people who understand that if we try something and screw it up, the world will not end and life will go on.
It’s not like our parents – for the most part – were lifers. They’ve for the most part, held more than one career in their lives. We are likely to hold 6 or more “gigs” throughout ours.
Our parents may not have stayed together and many of us were the quintessential latchkey kid. Now, we want to stay home with our children and we’re finding ways to do that (particularly if our parents didn’t, I think) and we’re having children much later in life. I don’t think that kids are necessarily a given for my generation.
We want more from life – from our job through to our children, our pets, our lives. We expect to live big and loud. It’s not just a play hard work hard -gruntgrunt- mentality.
We are, or perhaps it’s simply me and therefore the people I am attracting, more spiritual. We eschew the regulated religion. We are not a generation that has ever really been attracted to traditionally organized religion. Some of us stray away from it in droves and turn towards yoga, homeopathy and quiet, non-medicals ways to resolve issues. Some of us – those perhaps have grown up more in the tradition of and then faded away, have discovered that they need the structure of the spirit. We’re all doing the same thing – no matter what you call it, we’re all worshiping or revering some sort of higher power. Not all of us have named this power – it might be God for some of us, for others, it could the The Universe, or even ‘uh, yeah, so…I need to talk to you’.
We are more willing to admit our mistakes and shortcomings, and when we find them, we do something about them. We own our issues and want the criticism. It will help fix us.
What I’m seeing more and more is that this large group of us – this Lost Generation – is making big, dramatic moves, we’re throwing our hands up and changing our world, not for the greater good, but simply for our own good. We want more. To make us happy, because that ultimately benefits the greater good. We are a more enlightened generation than ever before.
I’m musing here…I know there’s a movement afoot and I’m smack in the middle of it. Many of my friends are as well. Let’s see if we can’t turn this into a generation of real societal movement instead of yet one more group of people, plodding along in our little lives, with our little plans.
You with me?
Fantastic. Way to describe me to a T! I’m on the verge of possibly losing my job due to budget cuts and I’m looking forward to this “opportunity”. And that’s just the start. Thanks for putting into words what many (at least I am) thinking.
Alistair – it’s true! Losing a job or (in my case) running up against a wall professionally has become the new ideal. That way, you’re all of a sudden freed from many of the ties that bind and have some ability to explore. What will you do with your freedom? What’s the dream you want to follow?
Definitely with you. I agree with everything you’ve said… except that I think we’re still in the minority, just much more pronounced than in past generations.
I think there’s an awareness that the old models have totally failed us. Whether we have divorced parents or parents who are still together, we see that marriage isn’t the panacea it’s pretended to be. So too with soul-killing jobs. The whole “get married, start a career, suck it up” model is transparently kaput.
I also think we were raised with a lot of self-esteem and high expectations. We were told to be ourselves. Then we were expected to be corporate slaves and conform anyway. Nope, sorry, you told us to be true to ourselves and our dreams, and we’re gonna follow that, not the “sage” advice that led our parents’ generations into lives we would find profoundly depressing on a daily basis.
Our model’s a lot more that of the internet start-up — the DIYers, who did their own thing and ignored the corporate offers only to benefit in the long run. There’s a lesson there, in having faith in your dreams and your abilities, trusting it will someday work out because you’re smart and others will increasingly like those dreams too.
A lot of my friends have families and good-paying jobs. I don’t, because I’m putting 12 hours a day into my dreams. Let it ride. There are times when I think it would be nice to have the comforts of marriage and a corporate income. Then I realize how profoundly unhappy I’d be in their lives. If I’m going to suffer (and that can’t be avoided in life), it might as well be as myself, standing by what I believe in.
Sorry to go on. Agree with what you’ve said. Just got me thinking.
@Julian – I agree completely, and I don’t think you need to apologize for “going on”. Yay thinking.
I’m in the same place – I don’t have a job I hate because I can’t handle the soul suck and I want to follow my dreams. I have been given an opportunity to do that and I’m working on grabbing onto it with both hands. it’s a hard thing to do – let go of the idea that I MUST BE WORKING. I forget that I AM working.
I will never be the 9-5′er; I tried and tried and it’s just not a realistic option for me. Pull out a 15,000 word week tho? Done and done, with time to spare and time to read and lounge around on the deck and cook the dinner and so on and so forth.
Dreams are gorgeous, wonderful things, the path to them can be a bit dangerous however. :)
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